Your cute for a..... Back handed compliments

Your cute for a big girl, your sexy even thou your dark-skinned. Wow that's your boyfriend and he's cute I'm shocked. I like your outfit, I wouldn't wear it but its cute for you. We all have had our share of backhanded compliments. Its so common many don't even know there being insulted. Many can't hide there insecurities so little jabs to others self esteem helps them make it through the day.  Me being a full figured women I run into the cute for a big girl back handed compliment quite often. Personally stir clear of guys who uses them its usually a sign of denial.He's conflicted with himself because he attracted to you but at the same time he doesn't have the courage to act on it or promote his affection.  Which is a huge red flag.

I know the big question Is what should I do when it comes to a backhanded compliments. I searched the web and came up with these answers. 

 

1. Fight fire with fire: but if you choose to do this, you’ll only be stepping down to their level.

2. Be polite: politely point out that that was not a nice thing to say. Wait for their reaction, which may not be what you’d hope for.

3. Put your best smile on and say “thank you, that’s so nice of you!”, and make the decision to let it go. This may not come naturally at first, but try this out and notice how you feel. Soon you’ll get to the point where you genuinely won’t care. Say to yourself “so what!”, because you know that there are people in your life who genuinely like you and care about you. Those are the ones worth focusing your thoughts on.

If people’s comments about you get to you a little too much, this amy be a reflection of how you feel about yourself; your self-esteem and self-worth. It’s important to build up a health and strong foundation of self-confidence, so nothing and no one will chip off at it.

You have to know who you are and what you stand for. And also what your standards are in terms of what type of people you want in your life.

If you don’t set standards for what’s acceptable and what isn’t, someone else will do it for you.

You can’t control what other people say or do, but you can control how you react to it. And at the end of the day, you are the only person whose opinion matters.

Anna

http://dublinnlplifecoach.com/3200/deal-sugar-coated-insults/